Making time for sex

This time of the year, it can be hard finding time to eat, never mind having sex.

But like everything else in your life – you can find the time. You just have to plan ahead.

Making more time for sex can be a game-changer in enhancing intimacy and connection with your partner. Here are some tips to help you carve out that special time.

1. Intentional Invitations

• Communicate Openly: Let your partner know that you want to connect. You might say something like, “Hey, I’d love to connect later tonight around 8:00. How does that sound?” This gives your partner time to check in with their feelings and respond thoughtfully.
• Plan Ahead: Instead of waiting for spontaneous moments, plan specific times for intimacy. This can help both partners prepare mentally and physically.

2. Create a Relaxation Ritual

• Set the Mood: Before your intimate time, engage in a relaxation ritual. This could be a warm bath, lighting candles, or playing soft music. It helps both partners unwind and get in the mood.
• To-Do Lists: If you find that daily tasks distract you, consider writing a to-do list before your intimate time. This way, you can set aside those thoughts and focus on each other.

3. Be Flexible with Timing

• Shorter Sessions: If finding long blocks of time is challenging, consider shorter, more frequent intimate moments. Even 15-30 minutes can be fulfilling if you’re both engaged and present.
• Spontaneous Moments: While planning is great, don’t shy away from spontaneous opportunities. Sometimes, a quick connection can lead to deeper intimacy.

4. Work around the kids

• If you have children, plan your intimate time when they are asleep or occupied. This can create a more relaxed environment for both of you.

5. Prioritize Your Relationship

• Make It a Priority: Just like any other important aspect of life, prioritize your intimate time. Treat it as a non-negotiable part of your week.

Let the sexperts at Beducated help you

If you’re looking for more structured guidance on enhancing intimacy, you might find the Beducated course on Roadmap to Intimacy helpful, especially the chapter on Intentional Invitations.