Finding love and sex partners / part 1
Love is one of the most profound and fulfilling experiences that life has to offer. But finding love can also be challenging, especially in today’s busy and competitive world. Finding the right sex partner can be just as hard. And the person you fall in love with may not have the same view on sex as you do.
The questions and challenges you have about finding love are the same for finding a sex partner. How do you know where to look, what to do, and who to trust? If you are feeling lost or frustrated in your quest for love or sex, don’t worry. You are not alone, and there is hope. In a series of 5 posts, we’ll take a look at some things you can do to help make your quest easier.
Step 1: Know yourself
Before you can find someone who loves you for who you are, or shares your same sexual needs, you need to know yourself first. What are your strengths, passions, values, and goals? What do you want from a relationship? What type of sex turns you on? What are your deal-breakers and deal-makers?
Knowing yourself will help you project a confident and authentic image to potential partners, as well as filter out those who are not compatible with you.
If you are looking for love, get to know yourself better, by writing down your answers to these questions:
- What are your best qualities?
- What do you like to do with your time?
- What do you love about yourself?
- What would you like to work on?
- What makes you feel uncomfortable?
If you are looking for a sex partner, get to know yourself better, by writing down your answers to these questions:
- What are your best features? Your cock? Your boobs? Your eyes?
- What do you like to do sexually with your time when you are alone? Watch porn? Masturbate?
- What types of sex turn you on? This might be a long list and include kinky stuff . Don’t worry, no one is judging you.
- What is one of your go-to sexual fantasies?
- What are your sexual turn-offs?
- What type of person do you find sexually attractive? And what features should they have?
What next?
Reflect on your list. Don’t be in too much of a rush to complete it. You might add or delete stuff over the course of a few days or weeks. Or you might think of some other questions to ask yourself.
In the second blog post on this subject, we’ll look at ways to find the partner you want.
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