We’re diving a bit deeper into some of the suggestions from that post.

We’ve already written about the importance of

• open communication

• rediscovering romance

This time we’re looking at how you can make intimacy a priority.

Intimacy is the glue that holds relationships together. It’s the deep connection, emotional bond, and physical closeness that sustains partnerships through thick and thin.

Yet, in the hustle and bustle of modern life, intimacy often takes a back seat to work, chores, and other obligations. However, prioritizing intimacy is essential for maintaining a strong and healthy relationship. One effective way to do this is by setting aside dedicated time for each other. In this blog post, we’ll explore the importance of making intimacy a priority and provide practical tips for couples to nurture their connection.

Why make intimacy a priority?

Before delving into how to prioritize intimacy, let’s first understand why it’s crucial for relationship health.

1. Strengthening Emotional Bonds: Intimate moments foster trust, understanding, and empathy between partners. Sharing experiences and emotions strengthens the bond between couples, making them feel closer and more connected.
2. Improving Communication: Intimacy encourages open and honest communication. When couples make time for each other, they have the opportunity to discuss their thoughts, feelings, and concerns in a supportive environment, leading to better understanding and resolution of conflicts.
3. Boosting Relationship Satisfaction: Research has consistently shown that couples who prioritize intimacy report higher levels of relationship satisfaction. Regularly connecting with your partner on an emotional and physical level fosters a sense of contentment and fulfillment in the relationship.

Setting aside dedicated time

Now that we understand the importance of intimacy, let’s explore how couples can prioritize it by setting aside dedicated time for each other.

1. Schedule Regular Date Nights: Plan weekly or bi-weekly date nights where you and your partner can spend quality time together. Whether it’s trying a new restaurant, going for a romantic walk, or simply enjoying a movie night at home, carve out time to focus solely on each other.
2. Weekend Getaways: Occasionally, escape the routine of daily life by embarking on a weekend getaway. Whether it’s a cozy cabin in the mountains or a beachside retreat, spending uninterrupted time together in a new environment can reignite the spark in your relationship.
3. Prioritize Cuddling and Affection: Physical touch is a powerful way to express love and intimacy. Make it a habit to cuddle, hold hands, and engage in other forms of affectionate touch on a daily basis. Even a few minutes of cuddling before bed can strengthen your emotional connection.

Cultivating a fulfilling sex life

In addition to emotional intimacy, a fulfilling sex life is an integral part of a healthy relationship. Here are some tips for couples to enhance their sexual connection:

1. Communicate Openly: Talk to your partner about your sexual desires, fantasies, and boundaries. Open communication is key to ensuring that both partners feel heard and understood in the bedroom.
2. Experiment and Explore: Keep the spark alive by trying new things in the bedroom. Experiment with different positions, role-playing scenarios, or incorporate toys and accessories to add excitement to your sex life.
3. Prioritize Pleasure: Focus on pleasure and intimacy rather than performance. Instead of striving for a specific outcome, prioritize mutual satisfaction and enjoyment during sexual encounters.
4. Make Time for Sex: Just as you schedule date nights, make it a priority to schedule time for sex. By setting aside dedicated time for intimacy, you demonstrate its importance in your relationship and ensure that it doesn’t get overlooked amidst other obligations.

Take time to nurture your sex life

In a world filled with distractions and responsibilities, it’s easy for intimacy to fall by the wayside in a relationship. However, prioritizing intimacy is essential for maintaining a strong and fulfilling partnership. By setting aside dedicated time for each other, whether through regular date nights, weekend getaways, or simple moments of cuddling and affection, couples can nurture their emotional and physical connection.

Additionally, cultivating a fulfilling sex life through open communication, experimentation, and prioritizing pleasure can further enhance the intimacy in the relationship. Remember, making intimacy a priority is not only beneficial for the health of your relationship but also for your overall well-being and happiness.

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You might recall a few weeks back we wrote about some ways to reignite the spark in your relationships.

We’re diving a bit deeper into some of the suggestions from that post.

We’ve already written about the importance of open communication.

This time we’re looking at some practical ways you can rediscover romance.

Make romance a priority

Life’s hustle and bustle often take a toll on our relationships, leaving romance on the back burner. However, it’s essential to prioritize nurturing the love and connection with your partner. Whether you’ve been together for a few months or several years, here are some suggestions for reigniting the spark and rediscovering romance in your relationship.

For One:

1. Plan a Surprise Date Night: Take charge and plan a special evening for your love. Choose a favorite restaurant or cook a favorite meal at home. Add a personal touch with candles, flowers, and maybe even some soft music to set the mood.
2. Write Love Notes: Express your feelings by leaving small love notes in unexpected places for them to find. It could be a simple “I love you” on the bathroom mirror or a heartfelt letter hidden in their purse.
3. Learn Their Love Language: Understanding your partner’s love language can deepen your connection. Whether it’s acts of service, words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, or receiving gifts, tailor your gestures to match their preferences.
4. Surprise Gifts: Show your appreciation with thoughtful surprises. It doesn’t have to be extravagant—something as simple as their favorite chocolate or a bouquet of flowers can brighten their day and strengthen your bond.

Or maybe:

1. Plan a Romantic Getaway: Surprise your partner with a weekend getaway to a cozy cabin, beachside resort, or quaint bed and breakfast. Spend quality time together away from the distractions of everyday life.
2. Cook Their Favorite Meal: Prepare their favorite dish or try out a new recipe together. The effort and time spent in the kitchen will be appreciated and cherished.
3. Create a Memory Jar: Start a memory jar where you both write down special moments or things you love about each other on slips of paper. Whenever you need a reminder of your love, take a moment to read through the notes together.
4. Plan a Surprise Adventure: Take the initiative to plan a fun and adventurous day out. Whether it’s hiking, exploring a new city, or trying out a new activity together, create lasting memories and strengthen your bond through shared experiences.

Make your time together count

Rediscovering romance requires effort, creativity, and a willingness to prioritize your relationship. By incorporating these suggestions into your daily lives, you can reignite the spark and deepen the connection with your partner. Remember, small gestures of love and appreciation go a long way in keeping the flame alive in your relationship.

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Effective communication is the cornerstone of a healthy and fulfilling relationship. For couples seeking to deepen their connection and explore their desires and fantasies, establishing open communication is paramount. Creating a safe and judgment-free space where both partners feel heard, understood, and valued is key to fostering intimacy and strengthening the bond between them.

Get started with these 5 tips

1. Initiate open dialogue: Begin by setting aside dedicated time to engage in open and honest conversations with your partner. Express your desires, fantasies, and feelings without fear of judgment or criticism. Start by sharing small, lighthearted topics and gradually progress to more intimate discussions as you both become more comfortable.
   • Example: “I’ve been thinking about trying something new in the bedroom. What are your thoughts on exploring our fantasies together?”

2. Practice active listening: When your partner opens up about their desires or feelings, listen attentively without interrupting or passing judgment. Show empathy and understanding by acknowledging their perspective and validating their emotions. Reflect back what you’ve heard to ensure clarity and demonstrate your commitment to truly understanding them.

3. Encourage vulnerability: Create a supportive environment where vulnerability is welcomed and celebrated. Encourage your partner to share their deepest desires, fears, and insecurities without fear of ridicule or rejection. Be patient, compassionate, and non-judgmental, allowing them to express themselves freely.
   • Example: “I appreciate you sharing your feelings with me. I know it takes courage to be vulnerable, and I really admire your honesty.”

4. Be mindful of body language: Pay attention to your body language and nonverbal cues during conversations. Maintain eye contact, nod in affirmation, and use affirmative gestures to convey your attentiveness and support. Avoid crossing your arms or displaying defensive postures, as these signals can inhibit open communication.
   • Example: Lean in towards your partner, maintain eye contact, and offer a reassuring touch on their arm to convey your presence and support.

• Set boundaries and respect limits: Establish clear boundaries and guidelines for communication, ensuring that both partners feel comfortable and respected. Discuss topics that are off-limits or sensitive and agree on how to navigate challenging conversations with care and sensitivity.
  • Example: “I want us to feel comfortable discussing our desires, but let’s also establish boundaries and respect each other’s limits. Is there anything you’d prefer not to discuss?”
  • Example: “I hear you saying that you’re interested in experimenting with role play. Tell me more about what intrigues you about that?”

By practicing these strategies and cultivating a culture of open communication, couples can create a safe and nurturing space where they feel empowered to share their needs, desires, and fantasies without fear of judgment or rejection. Remember, effective communication is a journey that requires patience, empathy, and a commitment to nurturing intimacy in your relationship.

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In the past week we have watched the couples do:

• the 3-minute eye gaze

• the 3-minute melting hug

• genital cupping

• a bit of dressing up with the addition of food (mostly whipped cream)

• and the old intimacy box full of sex toys.

Genital cupping is where the fully clothed couple is instructed to stand face to face, and lightly cup the other’s genitals while gazing into their eyes in a bid to become more vulnerable with the other.

In previous seasons they have also had extended laughing and 5-minutes of uninterrupted listening.

You can watch this video to hear Alessandra explaining in 2021 how to do some of these tasks.

That list!

The couples have also been presented with a list of sexual activities they can say ‘yes’, ‘no’, or ‘maybe’ to and then compare notes with their spouse.

We couldn’t find that exact same list but we did find an even bigger and better one courtesy of Scarleteen.

1. Open Communication: Start by initiating an open and honest conversation with your partner about your desires and fantasies. Express your feelings without judgment and encourage them to do the same. This creates a safe space for both of you to share your needs and preferences.
2. Rediscover Romance: Take a trip down memory lane and reminisce about the early days of your relationship. Recreate your first date, revisit meaningful places, or surprise your partner with thoughtful gestures. Rediscovering the romance can reignite the emotional connection, laying the foundation for a renewed sexual spark.
3. Prioritize Intimacy: Make intimacy a priority in your relationship by setting aside dedicated time for each other. Schedule regular date nights, weekend getaways, or simply carve out moments for cuddling and affection. Physical closeness fosters emotional intimacy, paving the way for a more fulfilling sex life.
4. Experiment and Explore: Inject excitement back into your sex life by experimenting with new techniques, positions, or fantasies. Explore each other’s bodies and erogenous zones, and don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone. Trying new things together can reignite passion and stimulate desire.
5. Spice Things Up: Introduce novelty and excitement into the bedroom by incorporating sensual experiences such as massage oils, scented candles, or erotic games. Create a seductive ambiance that heightens arousal and sets the stage for intimate encounters.
6. Invest in Self-Care: Take care of yourself both mentally and physically to feel confident and desirable. Engage in activities that boost your self-esteem, such as exercise, mindfulness practices, or pursuing hobbies you’re passionate about. Feeling good about yourself enhances your attractiveness and ignites the sexual spark in your relationship.

Remember, reigniting the sexual spark in your relationship is a journey that requires effort, patience, and a willingness to explore together. By prioritizing communication, intimacy, and creativity, you can breathe new life into your relationship and experience the electrifying passion you crave.

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In this post, we give you links to some articles about sex that you might have missed in your busy lives.

The first an article that appeared in Stuff where 36yo Laura explains why she hasn’t had sex in more than a year – and how her entire life has changed through her self-imposed celibacy.

Read the full article in Stuff

5 sex mistakes men make

GQ magazine has compiled a list of the 5 biggest mistakes men make during sex. It’s written from a straight man’s perspective but based off comments from women — and they should know! It’s perhaps no surprise that the number one complaint from women is men don’t care about their satisfaction.

So come on guys, brush up on that mistake and the other 4 – and you sex life might just become so much sweeter and happier.

Read the article in GQ

More about men going wrong!

We can all learn from our mistakes, yes? So it’s no bad thing to reflect on our behaviour. In British Vogue, Juno Kelley wrote about where men go wrong in casual sex. Juno reckons we should be offering some sort of sexual aftercare to each other after casual sex encounters.

Read what Juno says in British Vogue

Best sex toys for women

It’s nearly Christmas and time for treats. Whether you’re looking for yourself or as a gift for the special woman in your life, Marie Claire has got together the ultimate guide to the best sex toys for women. There is a huge variety on offer so this article should help you narrow your choices – or maybe you want to buy them all. In which case, have an orgasmic Christmas.

Start choosing sex toys from this list on Marie Claire